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September 14, 2011 7:09 pm / takingbacksingle

Should you unfriend your exes on Facebook?

Facebook is a big impediment to getting over your ex, or even that guy who didn’t want to go on a second date with you. Whenever you see him in your newsfeed (which is all the time, since you can’t help but check his profile once a day), you get reminded of him. The paranoia sets in whenever another girl writes on his wall. And when he posts a love poem, you can’t help but wonder if it was meant for you.

While Facebook is a great way to keep in touch with old friends, exes don’t have to be a part of that. I’m a firm believer in that the best way to get over someone is just getting rid of them from your life. While that may sound harsh, after a devastating break up or rejection, you need space.Don’t try to be friends. It usually never works, and if you really insist on keeping him in your life, at least wait until you’re over him. Though even when you’re over someone old feelings are easily remembered.

He might be offended  by you unfriending him, but I bet you were a bit more offended when he broke up with you. And he’ll understand. It’s better for both of you to move on. If you really do want to keep in touch with him, maybe friend him back in a year or two. But don’t be surprised if he takes this as a sign that you’re still into him.

So go ahead, unfriend him. I promise you, there really is some value to “out of sight, out of mind.”

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  1. typefashion / Sep 19 2011 1:00 pm

    My ex decided it was the best to do so, and at that time I hated it..but eventually one of you would move on and sparing the other person the details of all the fun you are having is actually a decent thing to do ! But until you move on..you would hate that you hit the unfriend button as it is so final…you barely know them anymore !

    When you break up being friends even in facebook is not an option !

    xoxo

    http://www.typefashion.wordpress.com

    • takingbacksingle / Sep 20 2011 12:11 am

      Yeah it does feel terrible when you do it. I always think, “what if he wants to contact me?” but if he hasn’t written you by now/ if he broke up with you, he’s most likely not changing his mind, and if he does, he probably is not very certain about his feelings for you, which is never good.

  2. Bulimia Recovery / Aug 10 2012 4:31 am

    Highly descriptive blog, I loved that a lot. Will there be a
    part 2?

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